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I found myself in exactly the same position as Lou: because of income and career flexibility, I am the default parent who (partially) gave up work when we had our son, and my husband (like Rob) is extremely supportive and involved. Nevertheless, there are still days when the mental labour and loss of identity get to you.
Lou reminds us to look after ourselves, reassures us that everyone is going through the same struggles (even if they curate an appearance that they aren’t), and warns against succumbing to the social pressure to compare ourselves with—or judge—other women. It felt as if I had acquired a more seasoned mum friend who could offer both reassurance and reality checks.
Additionally, since my son is just a year old, her book provided me with some “what‑to‑expect” scenarios for the toddler years, starting school, and beyond. I think this book is perfect for any default parent at any stage in their children’s lives, who isn’t necessarily looking for advice but would like a cathartic read that validates their feelings and experience.
Thank you to DK/DK RED for providing this book for review consideration via NetGalley, and thank you to Lou Beckett for writing it. All opinions are my own.
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